My eleven-year-old son Alex is playing basketball through the YMCA this winter. A couple of weeks ago, his coach was sick and asked for volunteers to help out. It just so happened that my oldest son Jed was available to attend the game and decided to coach. Alex was thrilled at the prospect of his 6’5” tall, big brother who plays high school varsity basketball acting as his coach. Ben and I watched as Jed walked the kids through some warmups and then encouraged them during the game. Ben noted that Jed’s skills as a camp counselor were coming out in addition to his basketball talents.
After the game was over, a father approached Jed. He said that his older son was an athlete who excelled in every sport while his younger son who was on Alex’s team was not as athletic. He then said that Jed was the first coach in any sporting situation that had looked his son in the eye and told him he’d done a good job. The father thanked Jed and told him that his son would remember that. I watched as the dad and Jed shook hands and tried not to tear up. That’s my boy, I thought. Except this week, that boy will be recognized at his senior basketball night and turns eighteen on the same day, becoming a man. One whom I admire and respect.
Most people who know our family know about Jed’s basketball prowess. He’s been playing basketball since he was tiny. As parents, we said we weren’t going to force sports onto our kids, but Jed has always been drawn to basketball. Thankfully, he grew into a big guy with talent who worked hard and stayed disciplined to excel at his chosen sport. But what many people may not know is that Jed is an outstanding student who knows almost everything there is to know about politics and history. He’s been soaking in those areas of study from the time he was in elementary school and can have deep conversations about the past and the future of our country and the world.
And most people don’t know that he wrote his major college essay about his experience as a member of the Pastor Nominating Committee at our Presbyterian church. For a year, he served as the youngest member of the committee elected by our church to find our current pastor after an in-depth process of discernment and an exhaustive search. He was dedicated to his role and determined to do his best to find the pastor that could lead our church into the future. He proved he is a serious person who cares deeply about his community.
On Saturday, Jed was able to attend Alex’s next game, this time as a fan in the stands. After the game, Jed found the boy whose father had talked to him the week before. Jed talked to him for a couple of minutes, and I watched as the kid wrapped his arm around Jed’s waist for a hug. Jed is a good man who will continue to nurture and support those around him. He will change the world, whether it’s the world at large or a little kid’s world. But no matter what, I will always be proud to say, “that’s my boy.”